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Jan 202014
 
‘Is there a husband who’d allow his wife to take a lover like I did?’

DEAR MR. EPPY,  I don’t know how I got the nerve to send you this letter about me and my lovely wife of 14 years, but I finally sent it.  I don’t have the guts to tell this story to anyone else. I don’t know why, but you are the only one I can share this with even if I know you will publish this.    My wife and I were once very active sexually. I think my relationship with my wife is unique and no one else in the world has the same situation as ours. I have a wonderful and faithful wife. Now, we will be celebrating our 12th anniversary. We have four kids. My wife is younger than me by 25 years.  I feel she needs more sex than what she is getting, but I cannot provide it for her anymore because of my age.  After sex, I become too tired.  I realize it is unfair to her.  So I gave her freedom and told her to find sex outside our marital bed.  She got angry and didn’t speak to me for 10 days. I apologized to her and she accepted. She thought that I was tired of her and our family. But this is not the case. I felt sad that I could not provide the sexual happiness she deserved. I wanted her to be happy. But then I gave her rules on how she must go about this so our family would not be compromised. Read More …

Jan 072014
 
Invest in your Family

As we start the year with high hopes, I wish to discuss the importance of investing in our respective families. Invest time, effort, money and do so in a deliberate way, the way we do with our corporate affairs. Corporate matters are dealt with in black and white rules, clear expectations and assessments because this is the efficient way. It eliminates, or at least significantly reduces, misunderstandings. However, oftentimes when we deal with family affairs we are not as deliberate or clear about our expectations. A lot of Filipinos are not comfortable with this concept of using clear and corporate-like practices for the family. A relative once expressed her discomfort on our requests for RSVP for family parties because she found it “too corporate” and very much the opposite of how they used to hold parties wherein you invite a couple and the couple was free to either not show up or show up with the barangay!  The problem with not using corporate efficiencies in dealing with our family affairs (way beyond RSVPs) is that when expectations are not stated clearly, they will most likely be unmet. When they are not met, we either go ballistics with our frustration or just allow them to pass, “Pagbigyan mo na, anak/magulang/kapatid mo naman yan. Pamilya yan, huwag nang magkwentahan.”  And this cycle goes on and on until the little irritations become a big family issue, something that could have been avoided if only expectations were set out clear at the start. Lifestyle Read More …

Jan 062014
 
Study: Babies understand language differences

A Filipino baby at a Gawad Kalinga Village. Philip Brookes WELLINGTON, New Zealand (Xinhua) — Infants who can’t yet speak themselves are able to recognize that people who speak different languages use words differently, according to New Zealand research. A study at the University of Auckland found that infants as young as 13 months understood that people from different linguistic communities used different words to refer to the same object. “This is the first evidence that infants do not indiscriminately generalize words across people,” study co-author Dr Annette Henderson said in a statement. “This early appreciation might help infants by encouraging them to focus on learning the words that will most likely be shared by members of their own linguistic group.” The researchers tested whether infants understood that word meanings (object labels) were not shared by individuals who speak different languages by showing infants from English-speaking families video clips that introduced two actors: one speaking French and the other English. They then monitored how long each infant looked at objects after the objects had been labeled by each actor, as infants looked longer at things they find novel or unexpected. Lifestyle Feature ( Article MRec ), pagematch: 1, sectionmatch: They found the infants applied the rules they had learned of their own language and expected speakers of foreign languages to label objects consistently. “This finding shows that infants appreciate that words are not shared by speakers of different languages, suggesting that infants have a fairly nuanced understanding of the conventional Read More …

Dec 232013
 
Pre-New Year bash at Riverbanks Center

MANILA, Philippines – As year 2013 ends, Marikenians as well as people from their neighboring cities and communities will have the opportunity to celebrate the New Year earlier at Riverbanks Center with a free concert and fireworks display. The tradition of holding an annual year-end concert and fireworks display at Riverbanks continues and will be held on the evening of December 30 at the amphitheater. This year, Chicser, MYMP, and Nyoy Volante will rock the night as people await the grand fireworks display. The show will start at 7 p.m. and the fireworks display will begin at exactly 9 p.m. To enjoy the show, come as early as you can to get good parking space and have a perfect view of the concert and the fireworks. Or drop by the mall and the Shopalooza Bazaar to do your last-minute shopping chores at Riverbanks Center as the biggest outlet center in the city extends its mall hours until 11 p.m. 

Nov 252013
 
MediCard reinforces latest coding system for medical records

MANILA, Philippines – Innovation is part of MediCard’s commitment to quality healthcare as it continuously embodies the latest systems and technology in the health management industry.  That is why, recently, its employees and officers took part in the ICD-10 seminar workshop, a training program designed to reinforce the latest medical classification list endorsed by the World Health Organization (WHO), adopted and mandated by DOH for use among all health institutions locally. “ICD-10, which has over 16,000 codes, allows a much more specific coding of diseases, signs and symptoms, abnormal findings, complaints, social circumstances, and external causes of injury or diseases of our patients in MediCard,” says Dr. Nicky Montoya, MediCard president.  “We’re proud to say that we have been embracing this system for almost five years now.”  Dr. Montoya adds that the coding system is helpful in utilization analysis to help companies manage their healthcare costs. Further, having claims personnel and clinic staff who are well-versed with the codes produces a faster and more reliable service to MediCard patients. The ICD-10 is a universal language used in different health organizations. With this, medical records are easily understood worldwide because diagnosis is easily discerned from the records. Conducted by National ICD-10 trainers Teresa Timbang and Fe Sinson of the Department of Health (DOH) National Epidemiologic Center (NEC), Philippine Medical Records Association (PMRA) president Lilian Garcia and PMRA secretary Elizabeth Tayag, the seminar produced a 95% passing rate among the participants.  Topping the new team of ICD-10 coders are: Dr. Jaen Castillo, Read More …

Nov 042013
 
‘My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me’

DEAR EPPY, My husband and I got married because I got pregnant. But a month before the wedding, he shouted at me. Ordinarily, I would have broken up with him. But because I was pregnant and the wedding was set for the following month, I didn’t. I married him and we had a daughter. I had hoped our love would make him change (he likes to shout at me a lot), but it didn’t. To my horror, he also doesn’t talk to me. He keeps his salary, his schedule, where he would go, his plans for the future, and how he would spend the money from his own business a secret. He likes staying in a separate room. He claims to be working. But I don’t believe him. He doesn’t like to have sex with me. After our daughter was born, he has refused all my sexual advances. At first, I attributed it to the weight I gained due to the pregnancy, but when I started losing the pounds, still, he refused to have sex with me. He prefers the company of his friends over mine. He doesn’t talk to me and would be in a hurry to leave the room when I say something. In the first two years of our marriage, I felt desperately isolated and frustrated. I became insecure — I thought I had bad breath and body odor so I became conscious of my body, but still, no sex. I became depressed at one point and Read More …

Oct 072013
 
Strike gold!

Mother Mary Josephine Rogers founded the Maryknoll Sisters and the first Catholic Normal School in the Philippines.   You’ve been officially adopted by Mary knoll,” dabbed Marla Yotoko-Chorengel, a dedicated and driven alumna of Maryknoll College Class 1963.   Marla also launched the Maryknoll/Miriam Family of Authors in time for this year’s golden jubilee homecoming.  Although labeled as coming from a rival school, my friendship basket held true-blue Maryknollers like shiny apples.  Among them, Nitnit, Evelyne, Jopee, Meldy, Angge, Betsy, Tere, Tani, Onic, Mar, Omang, Ina, Jean, GinaO, Minerva, Dolly, Lolita, and Ogie.  Our paths crossed and intertwined beginning with jolly, carefree soirées, jam sessions, double-dates and later on, in pursuit of common dreams and desires that took us across the seas and into different time zones. “Now, we’re the golden lolas,” exclaimed Chuchie Bince-Segovia. What have the years taught?  A lot.  Has anyone noticed how our memory has become selective?  “We keep meticulous attention to details of the past while struggling to remember what happened in the course of 24 hours,” said Nitnit Tongco. For Gina Acosta-Liebermann, a throwback on the American nuns:  “Sister Elizabeth Mary introduced us to drama, musicals, and puppetry. One time, she characterized the concept of fear.  Despite her unwieldy habit, she swept across the stage flagging her arms to escape Simon Legree, (the cruel slave owner in Uncle Tom’s Cabin, that debuted on Broadway in Rodger’s and Hammerstein’s The King and I). Our nuns were real people with normal, everyday cravings.  Sister Mary Miller, dean of Read More …

Jul 292013
 
The three stages of love

A recent birthday brought back a treasure trove of beautiful memories from my well wishers, some of whom I’ve spent many beautiful moments with.  One precious someone signed his birthday wishes, thus: “forever your soul mate,” which rendered me breathless for a moment. Then I felt a surge of adrenaline up my spine and, I must admit, allowed myself to wallow in the myriad of emotions that went through my mind and filled my whole being.  I almost felt embarrassed feeling the way I did, truth be told.  In retrospect, I must have been in love with this man, for me to have felt the way I did after reading his birthday greetings.  For sure, happy memories of that relationship resurfaced which made me smile all day during my birthday.  Family and friends asked me why I looked so happy at my birthday dinner.  I guess I am just a hopeless romantic!     I remembered that somewhere in my files, I kept an article about the science of falling in love. I immediately looked it up as I wanted to analyze what made me react the way I did.  Findings reveal that it takes between 90 seconds and four minutes to determine whether you fancy someone.  These are the stats: 55% is through your body language, 38% is the tone and speed of your voice, and only 7% through what they say.  It is all so true because I know that when I am attracted to someone, my body Read More …

Jul 222013
 
‘Ganito sila sa Makati’

Gawad Kalinga (GK) founder Tony Meloto motivates volunteers to work hard all day as one united force that will bring about a nation free from poverty. Five years ago, the local government of Makati evicted 500 informal settlers from various private properties inside the country’s premier financial district. To the residents’ surprise, however, theirs was the only relocation that ended up in a place rightly called “Dreamland.” With the help of Gawad Kalinga (GK) and a vast network of private companies and donors, dilapidated shanties were exchanged for middle-class houses, constricted eskenitas for wide, fully-paved roads, and hazardous living conditions for a subdivision that has existing amenities for water, electricity, education, and healthcare. Owned and managed by the Makati local government, Dreamland Ville is a 3.2-hectare property in San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan for 500 former urban poor settlers of the said city. Last June 12, with the help of Berjaya Corporation, the LGU was set to finish the housing project with 30 houses expected to be built in a span of three months. There was a time when 57-year-old Lilia Soriano was envious of her neighbors who were the first recipients of decent houses five years ago. All that changed last June 12 when Nanay Lilia became one of the projected beneficiaries of the soon-to-be constructed block. With hope ever so near, Nanay Lilia was one of the first volunteers present and working at the site hours before the official program started. Later that morning, Nanay Lilia was in Read More …

Jun 102013
 
Lung Center’s sleep lab treats sleep apnea

And so to sleep: Dr. Virginia de los Reyes, head of the Lung Center of the Philippines Sleep Lab and Sleep Disorders Clinic, with Philippine Society of Sleep Medicine’s Dr. Boots Instrella and Dr. Jonalyn Ang   MANILA, Philippines – Just when you thought you’re off to peaceful slumber and the sweetest of dreams, snoring away your exhaustion you may actually be suffering from a serious sleep disorder. The Lung Center of the Philippines (LCP) is ensuring that more Filipinos with sleeping disorders will be diagnosed and treated, as it launches a new sleep laboratory unit equipped with the latest Philips Respironics sleep diagnostic system. The new LCP sleep lab unit is capable of performing diagnostic and titration services for adults and children. It has the latest etCO2 system (End Tidal Carbon Dioxide System) for better detection of respiratory events in children. LCP is only the second sleep lab in the country to acquire this. The sleep lab can also do full video recording for seizure detection and diagnosis of abnormal sleep behavior. One of those sleep disorders is the very common and usually left undiagnosed obstructive sleep apnea, which is a disorder where a person’s airway collapses, causing breathing to stop repeatedly while sleeping. “Even if there’s the usual clinical manifestation and we already have high suspicion that someone has obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), we still need a sleep study in order to confirm the diagnosis, and to guide decisions regarding its management,” said Dr. Virginia de los Reyes, Read More …