Chinkee Tan Do you know someone who is… Always defensive… Greedy… Refuses to give way and sacrifice… Wants to always be the favored one… Wants to always have everything… Never thinks of others… There is no one else worthy or important but himself… Whether we admit it or not, self-centeredness has become a default mode. It is easier to become self-absorbed than selfless. Selflessness requires much effort. Self-centeredness comes out naturally. Just look at kids, for instance. Their natural responses are “mine” and “me”. So, we do not have to have to teach them to be greedy, but instead to share and be generous to others. Now if we don’t do this, they will grow up to be self-absorbed adults. What are the signs that a person is self-centered? When at a gathering, they fill up their plate to the brim even though they know that there are others who are sharing with the food. When you refuse to wait for your turn, and don’t want to stand in line. You always want to be served right away. When sharing is not part of your values. If ever you do give, it is with much expectation to get something in return or you should be properly acknowledged. When it has become a habit to ask, even if you are not in dire need. When you don’t want to consider the welfare and feelings of other people over your own. When you don’t want to be inconvenienced, to adjust or to Read More …
