Sep 262014

Is there something your wife really wants? Is there something she really wishes to have?

This is a question I often ask the married male participants whenever I’m invited to speak in marriage conferences.

This question really makes them uncomfortable. And sometimes fills them with confusion, as illustrated below by these circulating jokes found in the Internet.

“My wife was complaining that I spend too much time on the computer, and not enough time with her. I decided to fix that by having a “movie night” with her. We watched Hackers, The Net, Anti-Trust, You’ve Got Mail and The Matrix. She’s still mad at me.  What did I do?”

A man walked into a dress shop and told the clerk he wanted to buy a surprise, a formal evening gown for his wife. The clerk asked, “what size?” The man shrugged blankly.

Trying to help, the clerk inquired, “Well then, what are your wife’s measurements?”

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The man thought for a moment, “small, medium and large and in that order.”

You should know what your wife really loves.

But suppose that you finally figured out the one thing she really loves and that you finally got it for her to enjoy.

What do you think would happen next?

I came across this article a long time ago. It appeared in the April ‘85 issue of the Los Angeles Times

A lady named Ann Wells wrote an article about treating everyday as a special occasion.

It is truly a beautiful, noteworthy article about how one’s life should focus on every day and its wonders.

She wrote about not delaying the enjoyment of every day by saving ‘the best things’ for a special occasion because every day is already a special occasion.

She wrote this article, written in the simplest words yet conveyed such a deep, spot-on knowledge about how we should experience and treat every day as one of a kind, to relish the life God gave us, make it worthwhile for everyone, and most importantly, to enjoy it.

Ann Wells wrote, “Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experience to savor, not endure. I’m trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.”

When I read her work, I felt so elated. Truly, these are words of wisdom.

She also wrote, “And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special. Every day, every minute, every breath truly is…a gift from God.”

Every day is a gift from God, indeed. Every good gift comes from Him.

Now, the next time you buy something for your wife, don’t let her stash it away and ‘save’ it for a better occasion, encourage her to enjoy everything at present because there is no better occasion than ‘today.’

I use the best things God has given me; I use them for the people who are most special to me in my life.

I thank God for the provisions and his blessings.

We have to remember that there is no better time than ‘now’ to do and enjoy what we really love.

(You can connect with Francis Kong through Facebook at  or listen to his program called “Business Matters” from Monday to Friday at 8 a.m. and 6:30 p.m. in 98.7 dzFE-FM ‘The Master’s Touch’, the classical music station.)

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