
Chinkee Tan Is your spouse physically hurting you? Or telling you hurtful things? Do you feel abused physically or even verbally by your spouse? Being married for 17 years, after numerous counselling, I just need to write this because I have witnessed many women who have been physically abused yet choose to live in silence and fear. Likewise, I have witnessed many men who have become so resigned about their relationship with their own wives because of verbal abuse. ACCEPT THAT THERE IS A PROBLEM Unless you accept the fact that you are in a situation wherein you need help, you will not be able to see any positive change in your situation. Stop being in denial. Don’t cover up or even justify what your wife or husband is doing. Start accepting that you are in a problematic situation. Accepting your situation for what it is – is not easy. Oftentimes, you have probably wanted to just ignore your situation. But until you are able to do the first step – which is admit that you have a problem – you won’t be able to improve your relationship with your spouse. Okay, so now that you have accepted that you do have a problem in your situation, now what? ATTEND COUNSELLING Now that you have admitted that you need help, it’s now time to decide to get help. The presence of physical or verbal abuse in a relationship warrants help. Yes, it’s good for you, as a couple, to talk Read More …