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Chinkee Tan What if I go bankrupt? What if I fail? What if nothing happens? Why do I always think of the negative? Why is it so hard to think about the positive? Are you tired of negative people? Are you dismayed with their never-ending rants? Negative thoughts here, negative thoughts there. Complain here, complain there. It can be so tempting to shout sense into them and shake them into realization! You want them to wake up to the reality that it is not all negative in this world. You want them to know that they have the ability to change their mindset They know they are negative but they seem to not be able to do anything about avoiding negative thinking. Why are there people like these? ENVIRONMENT Environment plays a big factor in a person’s outlook in life. If, for instance, when as a child all you heard was “no”, “don’t do that”, or “stop it”, then you would most likely end up having a negative overview of life. You will not gain the confidence to embrace life’s realities because as a child, you were limited. PEOPLE THAT SURROUND YOU Another thing that can affect a person’s outlook is the company you are with. If you are often among complainers, then you will most likely become one. If they always respond in anger to situations, then you will also end up with an angry outlook. If they tend to use cuss words all the time, then you will Read More …

Chinkee Tan Were you insulted? Were sarcastic remarks hurled your way? Were you hurt because of the words said about you? Words are powerful; it can bring life, it can kill. Each and every word that comes out of our mouths should be well thought of, simply because it cannot be taken back once it has been said. Words are powerful. But what if we are on the receiving end of hurtful words? How should we react? What do we do? Do we retaliate or should we let it go? There are two things that you can choose to do when someone speaks negative things about you. FORGIVE THE PERSON I know, it is easier said than done. Forgiving is not easy to do, but if you hold back from doing it, you will just be torturing yourself. You have already been hurt because of the words said about you – do you think that not forgiving and being bitter will lighten the load in your heart? The truth is you’re not doing yourself a favor by making yourself a prisoner of unforgiveness. You’re just helping the person who said bad things about you continue to ruin you. They’ve said you are worthless, useless, irresponsible, gold digger, obese, anorexic, and other things that are offensive. What then? Are you going to just let it affect you in more negative ways? Or will you choose to be positive, doing things that will boost your confidence? Will you choose to be positive, Read More …

Chinkee Tan Are you still waiting for your big break? Are you growing weary of waiting for success to come your way? Have you done everything that you can to meet your goal to become successful? There are times when we want success to happen overnight. There are moments when you feel tired of having to work every single day. It has become tiresome to wait and it is already becoming a burden. But every successful person will tell you that they did not wait for success to come. They will tell you that they worked really hard to achieve it. They worked their best to achieve their dreams of becoming successful. They sacrificed and sweated it out. They did not take any short cuts. Allow me to share with you some tips to help keep you from getting tired and losing hope from waiting: WORK TOWARDS YOUR GOAL The word “work” is a verb, an action word. This means that we need to move to action if we want to achieve success. We cannot leave it to fate and wait for it to happen. Neither can we leave it up to other people while we sit in a corner for success. Success doesn’t come that way. We also can’t just keep on brainstorming and analyzing the possibilities. Success won’t come just by talking about it, without working at it. You need to GET UP and DO something to achieve your goal. Success is like a car. You won’t get Read More …

Chinkee Tan Do you know of someone who doesn’t seem to have a conscience at all? I’m not just referring to criminals, but to those who hurt the feelings of others and don’t feel any regret or remorse. Like what, Chinkee? – You treated them well and gave in to what they want, but they still fool you. – You showed them nothing but kindness and sincerity, but when they don’t get what they want from you, they turn on you as if you’re the bad guy. – You were good to them but they still have the nerve to spread false stories about you and manipulate you. In this world that we move in, it seems like there are so many of us who have experienced these things. And oftentimes, the offender is the person we least expect to do something bad to us. Why are there people who do not have a conscience? SELF-CENTERED These people only think of themselves, and have no second thoughts for the feelings of others. Their agenda is self-satisfaction, so they will do anything just to have what they want, even if it means stepping on other people’s toes. WALANG PINAGKATANDAAN These are those who have done some bad things in their past, but were not given the hard consequences. Perhaps the people they offended before just let the offense pass, so they really didn’t learn their lesson and have no qualms about doing it over and over again. For example: – For Read More …

Chinkee Tan Do you know of someone who is a “professional whiner”? “What is that?” “Why does it have to be like that?” Why just this much?” “Isn’t there anything else?” People who always complain are extremely UNGRATEFUL. They are difficult to please. They cannot even please themselves. It is normal to be disappointed when things don’t happen as we want them to. But one thing I that can’t stand, are people who love to whine, who complain. They feel that every time they log in a complaint, they are doing humanity a favor. The truth is, they are not even aware that their constant complaining has negative effects. One of the negative effects of complaining is that . . . THE SITUATION JUST GETS WORSE For example, when you get an NSO certificate, you get there to find a very long queue. Because you are a certified whiner, you can’t keep yourself from spewing out a litany of complaints starting with the long queue! But wait, there’s more! Because you are a veteran at this, you are also an EXPERT in looking for other things to whine about. “There should be a number system so that we can just leave our spaces. This waiting in line and moving forward like snails is silly!” Then you’d even look around for a sympathizer, “am I right?” Another negative effect of being a constant whiner is… THE BLESSINGS BECOME DISTANT If your food is just smoked fish, isn’t it still a blessing? Read More …