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Chinkee Tan I’m sure that at one point or another, we have experienced rejection in our life. Have you experienced being eased into the “friend zone”? (Ouch!) Have you experienced being rejected by your friends when you offered to sell them your wonderful product? (No sense of gratitude!) Have you experienced being given the cold shoulder when you were trying to propose a bright idea? (You hurt my feelings!) Even your social media accounts aren’t immune to rejections, especially when you get “unfriended” or your posts were “unliked” Rejection is inevitable; it is really a part of life. We got to learn how to live with or it will destroy us. Just like what Miss Columbia said, “Everything happens for a reason.” That’s right! How? I believe rejection exists because… IT IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR US TO LEARN Maybe you didn’t do something right. Maybe it just wasn’t the right time. Maybe they don’t need it at this time. Maybe they just don’t see the benefits yet. Maybe our ideas are good, but we need to always be OBJECTIVE especially in receiving comments about them. Sometimes we get too focused on the details that we miss the whole picture. Aside from that . . . IT MAKES YOU STRONGER Don’t lose heart, but instead use this rejection to challenge you to PROVE to yourself that you are capable of accomplishing something. Just think back to the time before you were rejected. You were not too scared and settled for mediocre. Read More …

Chinkee Tan You know you have done everything you can and exerted all your effort yet your boss doesn’t seem to notice. It even feels like you need to do more. Or perhaps you have taken it upon yourself to do everything at home, even if you are already exhausted from work, yet you don’t even hear a “Thank You” from anyone. Perhaps each one of us has experienced being unappreciated by those whom we expect to would do it. And when we are not appreciated, we feel like all that we have done and do are wasted/amounts to nothing. A simple “Thanks” can definitely erase any exhaustion, so if this does not exist, then the physical and emotional heaviness doubles. The first thing we need to do when we are looking or yearning for appreciation from other people is to… REDIRECT OUR FOCUS When we have become too focused on what we can RECEIVE, disappointment is not far behind. This is because we do not control how other people think, thus we cannot INFLUENCE their decision to be according to what we want. We can only CONTROL our SELF. So, if you are headed toward the path of looking for appreciation, my advice is not to go there. Find a detour and focus on what you can do about it. Now, as soon as our focus is corrected, what we can do is to… ASSESS PEOPLE’S PERSONALITY Don’t be quick to judge and conclude that your boss is ungrateful Read More …

Chinkee Tan First and foremost, allow me to greet you a Happy New Year this 2016. Let us start it off with an intriguing statement, “Do you know that God answers all our prayers.” “If this statement was true, then how come nothing has happened yet and I have been praying for a long time already?” Let me ask you this. When your son asks you for a new toy or gadget, do you say YES right away? When your husband requests to buy a new car, do you say YES right away? When an officemate requests you to do some extra work for him or her that is not within your scope, do you say YES right away? We have to remember that “yes” is not the only answer, that there is ANOTHER answer from God. Just like when we respond to the requests of our children, spouse, sibling, parent, friend or officemate, God won’t always say, “YES”. God does answer all our prayers, but it may not be the answer that we are expecting. It may be… “YES, BUT NOT NOW!” Perhaps you are praying for a promotion, a big contract, additional income, but it still hasn’t happened. You are now annoyed and are almost out of patience. Exactly! Perhaps the reason why God hasn’t answered your prayer is because you are not yet ready. Maybe God wants to teach you about being MORE PATIENT. We have become very impatient and we want to achieve or attain things Read More …

Chinkee Tan Have you experienced any of these? Waking up in the morning to see text messages about your loans. You can already be phone-pals with the credit card collection agent with the frequency of his calls. All your income and salary just go to paying your debts. You can’t sleep at night from thinking of how or where to get money to pay off your debts. Having an income that falls short is a sad situation to be in, but there is nothing more tragic than if you are already at the end of your rope or up to your neck deep in debt. It is not just a road block but a dead-end. No detour, not u-turns. Even if you want to pay up, you really don’t have anything more to give. They can search your house or drain you dry, but they will not be successful in getting any single cent more out of you because there is simply none. When this is your situation, what more could you do? Here are my suggestions: FACE YOUR CREDITOR You cannot pay off your debt if you run away or hide from it. Don’t run away from your responsibility. Face it. Personally talk to your creditor or the person you owe money to, to let him or her know your real and honest situation. BE HUMBLE You should learn how to humble yourself. Let go of your pride. More often than not, the person who is in debt is Read More …

Chinkee Tan Have you ever made a decision that you now regret making, and perhaps you are now reaping the consequences of it? Did you make that decision when you were in the midst of depression, anger, fear or envy? Was this decision made out of the pull of your emotions? “I am so mad at you right now. I hate you. I don’t want this marriage anymore!” “I am so fed up with all the workload. I give up. I’m really going to resign!” “I’m better off leaving, anyway no one appreciates my efforts around here!” “Argh! I can’t wait for the go signal of Boss! He’s so slow! I’m just gonna go ahead with the project.” We are created as emotional beings, so we cannot avoid the different emotional responses that arise in us especially with all the external sources that surround us. It is but normal to get angry, to be annoyed or to feel sad. It only becomes dangerous when we make decisions, especially major ones, when we are in the midst of or at the peak of experiencing these EMOTIONS. More often than not, the decisions we make at this point are the wrong ones and we end up deeply regretting it. Why should we NOT make a decision when we are in an emotional state? 90% OF THE DECISION IS GOING TO BE WRONG As I have mentioned earlier, since you are in a very emotional state at that moment, your ability to think Read More …