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Chinkee Tan Are you afraid to fail? Are you afraid of rejection? Do you want to be free of these fears so that you can finally fulfill what you want to do in life? Some people end up living their life with much regret. These are the people who usually have a long list of “if only…” “If only I tried.” “If only I took the risk.” “If only I was more brave.” “If only…” They spend too much time reminiscing about what they could have done. So let me tell you this. You need to take action while there is still time. You don’t need yesterday or even tomorrow. You just need to start TODAY, if you don’t want to be among those who are stuck in their long list of “if only’s”. It won’t help to think too much of the past or what could have happened. Rather, focus on the present. JUST START NOW! “But Chinkee . . .” I know what you are thinking. How can you overcome your fear of failing or of rejection? Here are two simple guidelines to follow: STOP THINKING Don’t think too much or over-analyze the situation. Have you heard of the phrase “ANALYSIS PARALYSIS”? We tend to draw up scenarios that are filled with negative outcomes and fears, instead of being filled with positive results. Relax! Chill! “What if I don’t get the job?” “What if I don’t succeed?” “What if what happened to me before will happen again?” Come Read More …

Chinkee Tan You didn’t get the job, so you already think you’re a loser? You see someone whispering in the corner, so you already think they are gossiping about you? Your business didn’t earn today, so you already think you are going to go bankrupt? You didn’t finish your education, so you already think you don’t have a future? You got busted, so you already think it’s the end of the world? Why is it automatic for many of us to think and react negatively? We exert no effort when it comes to negative thoughts. When something unpleasant happens to us we are quick to see the bad side, focusing on our dismay, our hurt, the unpleasant, the mistake and what we don’t have. We always fail to see and look at the brighter side; that in everything that happens in our lives, there’s a purpose, there’s a reason, whether it’s good or bad. So why are we too quick to think of the negative than the positive? What can we do so that we are not easily drawn to think of the negative? Simple. Here are some of the things you can do: FEED YOUR MIND WITH POSITIVE THOUGHTS Train yourself to think of the positive. Feed your mind with the good things. Get rid of the negative things in your mind and do not allow any negative thoughts to linger. Let’s say you and your spouse are having marital problems right now, then you should stop watching TV Read More …

Chinkee Tan Do you know of someone who doesn’t seem to have anything better to do than to talk about the lives of other people? Perhaps even to the point where his or her day won’t be complete without spreading a rumor about someone else? “Hey, did you see that young woman our neighbor brought home last night? Isn’t he married already? “Just look at her. She’s so smug! She feels like she’s the most competent person in the world. Her presentation wasn’t even that great!” “Did you hear about ______? Did you know that he owes a lot of people money? “Tsk, tsk, too bad!” “I wonder why they are getting married so soon? Maybe she’s pregnant!” BZZZT…BZZZT…BZZZT… Oh wow. These are just some of the examples that prove that there are so many busy bees around. It doesn’t even matter where you are anymore; in the streets, school, office or any place for that matter, we will always encounter rumors about other people and people talking about other people. Why is it so difficult to stop a person from gossiping about others? What is it about gossip that even if it will hurt others and we know that it is wrong, we still go ahead and do it anyway? TO FEEL SUPERIOR This person usually knows that there is something wrong with himself or herself and cannot accept this flaw. So in order for them not to be dragged down or to save themselves from a pity party, Read More …

Chinkee Tan Sleep late … Wake up late… Facebook all day… TV and gadget all day… Consistently unproductive. Do you know anyone who does absolutely nothing for the whole day? Why are there people who are lazy? I realize that all of us have somehow gone through a season of lethargy or idleness, where we have no energy to get out of bed every morning, to go to school, to report for work, or to do anything else. Whether we admit it or not, we have experienced laziness in one way or another. We can be diligent when it comes to our work, but lazy in exercising. We can be diligent in preparing and cooking food, but lazy when it comes to cleaning the house. It can be a real challenge to counter laziness. We want to change and become more industrious in everything that we do, but we can’t do it because of laziness. But before we can even counter laziness, we should be aware of the possible reasons why we feel lethargic at times. TIRED AND OVERWORKED When we have already accomplished so much, we want to just shut down. We feel drained of our energy, so what we want is to just do nothing. INFLUENCE Maybe you are surrounded by people who are generally lazy, who don’t have much drive and are unproductive in life. And you find yourself being dragged into this kind of lifestyle. Oftentimes, people who have no drive become lazier and lazier because Read More …

Chinkee Tan 41 million tweets in 24 hours! 51% rating for the show Eat Bulaga, which is unprecedented in the entire history of advertising and TV. There is no denying that AlDub is a monster hit among Filipinos here and worldwide. Are you one of those who religiously follow AlDub? Can you relate to this love team? What are the things that we can learn from them and apply to marriage? There may be some people who don’t understand why AlDub has such an impact on Filipinos. For them, it is just about watching a silly and shallow “kalyeserye” (or street theater) and all this hype and fanaticism is absurd. Well, it all depends on one’s viewpoint. While it may be shallow, for me as long as the audience can pick up lessons from it then it is not at all foolish to watch it and can be worth our time. We really need more entertainment shows that share positive lessons, regardless of its being shallow, as others might think. It would actually be preferable than shows that claim to have “deep” or intellectual themes but are full of negative lessons and values. So what are the positive lessons that we can learn from AlDub that we can apply to marriage? SENSIBILITY In a marriage relationship it is important to be aware of the feelings. Selfishness should have no place in your married or family life. Once you are married you begin to consider what your spouse wants too. It Read More …